Living With Invisible Illnesses


 Showcasing what many of us live with and deal with on a daily basis:

Preventable Suicide Crime Scene


Someone help this woman! This is a crime! They treat animals better than people so what’s wrong with this picture? This must stop! People are committing suicide because they’re being denied pain medications! Please watch this short video and it will open your eyes to the TRUE OPIOID crises going on in the United Stated of America! Someone please help this woman and the other 100 million chronic pain patients who are in agony now bcz of what’s being misunderstood as addiction, hyperalgesia and worse! This lack of opioid pain medication to true legitimate chronic pain patients, has to stop! We are not disposables! We are in agony and we are human beings with rights like every living soul! Please learn about the difference between dependence and addiction! Addiction is a non-stop ruminating, craving and a need to get high from taking some kind of medication or drug! People with Chronic pain get “addicted” 1% of the time, due to pain medication! We are “dependent” NOT addicted! Our bodies will go through a physical withdrawal when the meds are taken away! But we do not WANT to need the pain medications. We do NOT get high or euphoric from the opioids! We get to live some semblance of a life outside of a hospital or a bed in our homes! Please help because too many people have died already! Stop being hysterical and blaming real and legitimate pain patients because someone you know died from an overdose! I’m so sorry for you, but don’t punish everyone because you’re in misery! Find compassion in your heart and watch this woman’s story for about 3-4 minutes! Thank you!

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This is My Fight …….


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This post stems from some horrible comments that were made on one of my videos on YOU TUBE. MY one YOU TUBE channel is mostly dedicated to information and helping others struggling with chronic pain and /or Invisible Diseases or disabilities. I am not writing this post to “brag” about what I do, because it’s not all for unselfish reasons. It also helps me continue to live on and to want to continue to try and move on beyond the illnesses and the pain that I live with every single day. I was thinking about just deleting the mean comments that someone who says their name is “Jose'”, wrote to me. I thought about not responding and never even saying anything back to this person or these people posing as someone named “Jose'”. I am going to copy and paste the comments here; that were put after my very short video.  The video is one that I made after only day #1 going through withdrawals from being on the Fentanyl lollipops for 12 years and 20 + per day. It was prescribed by my Dr’ of 14 yrs or so. It was Ok’d by the insurance companies and the pharmacy never said a word. I was and am a “lay” person and I did what I was told. I had been on 2 x 100’s strength Fentanyl patches at a time and changed them every 48 hours. At the same time I was on those lollipops. I was put on them at first because every pain medication “ate up my stomach”. Nothing I took by mouth worked because it made me sick to my stomach or burned badly.  So I was put on the lollipops and the patch. One day when I fell and my pain was made so much worse, my GP; the M.D. that had me on those dosages, told me to “go ahead and start wearing 2 of the 100 strength patches”. I did what I was told just as I’ve done my whole life. That is why I’ve gone through so much abuse and trauma because of trying to be the “good girl” and do whatever someone who I thought was a person in “power” or who had “power over me “(so I thought) told me to do.

The reason that I posted this Artistic Sign Language cover song by Rachel Platten, called “Fight Song”; is to show how I am feeling much better now than I was during that “withdrawals day #1 video”. I only did that withdrawal video to show others what it might be like for them to go through withdrawals and what it might feel like. I then posted my new YOU TUBE page called ASLSuzyQ because that is where I put my ASL cover songs. I lost my career due to PTSD, pain, nerve hearing loss and more pain, 8 surgeries, a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury), disabling pain and illnesses. But now I do little tiny bits of ASL to songs because it cheers me up and I hope it cheers up others as well.  I can only do it for a little while and the pain afterwards is debilitating. I cannot even hear the song with the music like I could in the past as I acquired 2 hearing aids due to nerve hearing loss.

I am now going to show you and copy and paste exactly what this/these person(s) wrote to me . Then following those comments, I will post my response to the comments. I’m not sure if this person is really someone named “Jose'” because their “account” in You Tube is not a real account. This person or person may even be some  “bullies” that had popped into my life recently. I’d been abused and in fact I’m used to spotting Narcissist’s and Malignant Narcissistic abusers. Therefore I “popped” them right out of my life as fast as they tried to hurt me and attempted to ruin my long time friendships and my reputation. But my reputation speaks for itself and I don’t have to defend my honor to anyone. I know who I am and what I’ve done. I know what I am doing and hopefully what I will continue to try and do.  I’m a good and kind person. I’m not perfect, but the only one who can judge me is God.  Here is what this person or these persons wrote to me and then afterwards is my response:

SPEAK UP! STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. I’M ON 4-100 PATCHES. You slowly come off them by matching the withdrawl symptoms. Stop and think about it. Some of us have it worse than you. get a grip

-Hello Jose, Im sorry you are such an angry man. It’s too bad that you judge before you know anything at all about me or my life or my background . You know nothing of me or what I’ve been through. Actually I was told by SSDI that I “am the worst case of child abuse/trauma that they’d seen in the past 36 yrs”, that was when i first got on disability in 1998. I also at that time had and still have CKDII now III. I don’t feel sorry for myself, in fact I’m a health advocate /activist. I’m an ambassador for the U.S. Pain association and a Mentor for RSDHOPE.org. I run 2 support groups with over 750 people in chronic pain. I’ve done commercial for Invisible diseases association and I’ve been a “chemo-angel” since 2005. I help others and I don’t hurt people, especially other’s in pain, like me. My new pain Dr. who helped me through the withdrawals in July 2015, this Summer, when I made this video, couldn’t believe how many “real” pain illnesses I have and deal with. He and all of my Dr’s that I’ve had for many years, tell me “how proud they are of me” for all I’ve been through and then to be left like that on 2 x 100 fentanyl patches (weighing 120 lbs at 5’5″ tall and 53 yrs old!!) and 20 + fentanyl lollipops daily. I had to go down slowly on my own, which I did. I then got to 2 per day or 3 and then I took zero after the 12th of July this past year. I’ve never had one again in all of 7 months. I’m proud of myself. I didnt ‘have to go anyplace to be “treated” and a kind pain Dr. took me and is proud of me for all that I have and all that I try to do for others. I only made the video to help others to see what it may be like at first and then I did the other video’s such as “stand by you” in ASL by Rachel Platten and many others, since then to show them and everyone that I did it and can do it and am doing it. I don’t feel sorry for myself very often, but sometimes I allow it for a few moments. I have been a survivor of childhood trauma/abuse since I can remember, then 2 marriages- abusive and one to an ex cop who’s not one any longer but not because of me, because he hurt someone after me. I finally found my soul-mate and actually today, Valentines day we are celebrating our 19th anniversary. Only some of my chronic pain illnesses include: full body/systemic CRPS, Polyneuropathy in Collagen Vascular Disease, Autonomic Neuropathy, Prinzmetal angina/coronary spasms, CKDIII, Rheumatoid arthritis, Osteoarthritis, Coronary artery disease, right long thoracic nerve neuropathy, I have Long QT syndrome in my heart, atrial fibrillation and have a pacemaker. I had heart surgery in 2013 and my CRPS went inside of my body at that time. Im on my 2nd pacemaker. I had a heart attack in May 2005 and a CVA or stroke in 2006, along with 2 “mini” strokes since then. I’m on Coumadin/blood thinners for that. I have Arnold Chiari Malformation I and Multiple herniated/bulging discs in my Lower back and neck at C 4/5 and C5/6 and L4/5, S-1….I have SCID or “severe combined immune deficiency disease”, along with Eczema secondary to CRPS, Asthma, nerve hearing loss with 2 hearing aids and I lost the career that I went to College for …I was an INterpreter for the Deaf and now I sign songs and do artistic signing of covers of songs when I’m able. I’ve had 8 surgeries and all of this happened after a car accident in 2002 ,when a man ran a red light while fighting with his wife. I was knocked unconscious and for 30 minutes or so I’m told. I was also in brain injury rehabilitation for 3 yrs outpatient, because I suffered a Traumatic brain injury. Luckily I found the best Dr’s and got leg braces, a wheelchair, walker and motorized scooter and loftstrand crutches to help me along. I use a cane sometimes when that’s all I need; other times I need the wheelchair depending on my pain that day. I didn’t need to explain all of this,but I felt that if someone who actually has “feelings” and “compassion” ever reads this..they will see how mean and uncaring others can be when they are ignorant to the situation and know nothing of the person they call “feeling sorry for herself”. There will always be people worse off than me and than you. There will always be people better off than we two….I already know that my spirit and my heart are much much better off than you. You can be “sicker” than me if that’s what you wish sir. You can “win”….you can have that place if you want it. I don’t want to be the “sicker” one. I want to be the one who survived to help others and work with others to help them to keep on wanting to survive and never give up… Good day.

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So that is what they/he/she said to me and this was my response. My husband asked me “why did you bother to write back”? He told me that I should have just denied the comments and not approved them.  But I wanted others to see how people can be so mean, even when you are trying to be helpful and no matter who you are or how “good” you try to be, there will always be someone who will judge you and try to hurt you. The only way they succeed is if you allow that hurt and meanness to get into your heart. It will not penetrate my heart because I want to be a good, kind and thoughtful person. I want to help others and I will continue to do so as long as I possibly can. People like this are one or more of many things:  Mentally ill, abusive, Narcissistic and /or Malignant Narcissistic abusers; or all of the above!! I had to show people that no matter what meanness or hurtfulness comes my way or may come your way; don’t ever give in or give up. I won’t either!
I do have some “protected” posts or “private” posts. For my own safety and due to the abusers in my life still today; I have had to do this. If you wish to read those posts, please email me and I will send you the password. Thank you so much…Im sorry this post was not uplifting but I just wanted to show that no matter how hard someone tries to be good and kind and even try to help others, there are always bullies and Malignant Narcissist’s out there ready to “Pounce” and they’ll try to hurt you.  Just don’t let them hurt you or your spirit. Know yourself and what is in your heart and soul.
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Well, I was going to copy and Paste the “apology” that I got from this person. I went back to go and do that so you could see that by responding in an assertive way and making the person responsible for what they did, said….sometimes people will rethink what they’ve said or done. In this case, Jose’ decided to delete his message, which in turn deleted my response. Therefore, it is all as it never happened now on YOU TUBE! But it is here, in my blog and I hope that I’ve learned something and I pray that others have also learned from this post. Thank you and I pray that you have a low pain day and a good day today and every day…

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Trials of a Chronic Pain Patient…..


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Have you been betrayed by your Dr? Do you feel like a “common criminal” because you are a legitimate chronic pain patient? Then please read on:

So if you follow my blog at all, you know that my GP, or my General Dr. of the past 13 years just quickly left the practice he’d been working at for many many years. I had an appointment in October 2014. I showed him a letter that I’d rec’d from my insurance company stating that I must go to a pain specialist and that he/she must agree with my GP’s treatment plan; in order for them to continue paying for my pain medications. The letter also stated that If the pain specialist did not agree, they would stop paying for my pain medications on March 1st, 2015. My October 2014 appointment was only for the purpose of making sure my Dr. would help me arrange the pain specialist appointment, send him a letter & call him to explain my extensive and unusual situation. My GP, had been the one person I trusted other than my husband of 18 years and my Psychologist of 15 or more years. I don’t trust many people due to my longstanding history of being abused and being a survivor of domestic violence. That is a story for another day, but you need to know why I feel so betrayed!

Since my car accident in 2002, (*a man ran a red light and I was injured terribly), I have endured so many injuries, surgeries; including 2 pacemakers, along with suffering a Mild Traumatic Brain Injury (3 yrs of TBI rehab), a stroke and a heart attack! Then to end up in 2007,after a foot surgery with CRPS type II. The CRPS II then spread and has been systemic since after my 2nd pacemaker surgery, when they found that my 1st pacemaker had worn a hole right through my pectoral muscle; which then had to be rebuilt.  My excellent Neuro Cardiologist researched RSD/CRPS and found that sometimes an inner surgical wash of “Bipvucaine” (*which he did do) may help stop the spread of the disease. At or about my 6 week post op checkup, I found out that my CRPSII did spread and it is systemic. My pain is very high and I have several other pain illnesses and auto-immune/Neuro autoimmune disease.

I had been to an excellent, well respected and kind pain Dr. He has a good bedside manner and is very intelligent. He tested me in every way possible. I followed through with whatever tests he wanted and I did all that he asked of me. I had several Epidural blocks, trigger point injections, Cortisone shots, Biofeedback and more. I was tested by the pain Dr’s own Psychologist and Psychiatrist. They concluded that I did NOT have an addictive personality. After trying many pain medications which either made me ill or that I was allergic to, we found one that actually worked well for about 2 years. When all else failed, I was offered an intrathecal pain pump; but refused it.  I am a smaller stature person and could not imagine something the size of a “hockey puck” inside of my gut & under my left rib cage forever!.  Finally, I was put on a pain patch for 24/7 relief and pain lozenges for breakthrough episodes. Because I was only receiving pain medicine and needed it in order to try to have any kind of quality of life whatsoever; the pain Dr. referred me back to my GP, who was Dr. Bullach. He  told me that he would be  “the eye in the middle of my storm”. He would prescribe all or most of my medications. I lived with those meds for the first 3 to 7 years. Finally, the pain stabilized and I stayed on the same dosage for the next 5 years.

I started out after the car accident, being in a hospital bed in my home or on my couch as well. I could not even move without excruciating pain. When I got to the point where I was put on the pain meds that Dr Bullach gave me for those 10 years, I was able to do a few things. I was able to get out of the house. Every time I would ask Dr B. to reduce my level of pain meds, he would tell me “No …you let me worry about it. You don’t want to end up back on that couch or hospital bed again.” He told me that “I should not worry and if/when the time came & I was able to reduce my pain medications, he would “put me into the ICU so that I wouldn’t have to go through anymore pain”. He told me that I would “wake up and it would be over without my having to go through feeling any of the withdrawals.” But every time I would ask him to let me reduce the amount, he just told me the same things. I trusted him and He told me that he was “the eye in the middle of my storm”. He told me not to worry about anything! I did trust him, but still I worried.Though I’m very naive, when it comes to medicine because I never drank alcohol, smoked cigarettes,pot, nor had I ever taken any prescription pain or street drugs in the past; prior to that car accident. I am a lay person and had no idea what a good amount or a right amount of pain medication is. I trusted my Doctor for that!  I wish to reiterate that I asked him over and over again, to let me reduce the pain meds.  I acquired RSD/CRPS in 2007, after surgery on my foot. I have it as well as the other car accident injuries and surgeries. Later, the RSD/CRPS II spread to my full body.

So….in going back to that letter that I received from the insurance company, I took it to my ex GP, Dr. Bullach in October 2014. I felt it inside of my heart and soul that very day, that something was not right! He looked me deep into my eyes and said “you need to just see a pain Dr and he will agree with my treatment and its just a formality.” I told him that I was afraid….scared and could I go back to the same pain Dr. that I had known, liked and been to for several years prior. He said I could go to that pain Dr and because I was crying and afraid, he absolutely promised me that he would  call and personally speak to the pain Dr. and send him everything and /or anything that he may need in order to help me get my medications continued and paid for; in order to keep my pain at least at the level it’s been at,so that I could continue to have some sort of a life outside of laying on the couch in pain all of the time.

When we left that appointment in October, I told my husband “something was not right today”….I said that it felt weird and different. I told him that Dr. B. looked at me so oddly as if he wanted to say something but instead he was robotic and went about his business. I took him at his word when he said he “PROMISED to call that pain Dr. and send him a letter with all of the info he might need, in order to help me.

I made my pain Dr. appointment for Jan. 2,2015. But prior to that appointment, I had one more appointment with Dr. B. and had no idea what was in store for me. Two days before the appointment, with no prior knowledge; I received a letter from the other Dr. in the practice, the one who actually owns it.  It was very short and just said something like “Dr Bullach will no longer be seeing patients in our office as he accepted another position at an Urgent Care in another community, Jackson, MI; about an hour away”!!! I was not only shocked and devastated, but afraid and just couldn’t stop crying. I trusted another human being and yet another human being broke that trust! All I could think of was “what is going to happen to me now?”

I went to my appointment, the last appointment with my Dr. Bullach. I spent the whole entire visit for about 40 minutes, just crying. They never examined me, nor even touched me. I didn’t get my blood pressure checked, my heart wasn’t listened to and I have Atrial fib, Long Q.T. and a pacemaker.  The Dr. did nothing that day (he did nothing the prior appointment as well, which I also thought was odd). It was as if he’d just given up on me and didn’t care anymore. He would not give me my prescriptions that he’d been giving me for the past 10 years (although no increase the past 5 yrs). He told me again, “not to worry because the other Dr. in the practice would take care of me just the same and he would prescribe the same meds and everything was going to be O.K”. The medical assistant, “C.” even told me those exact words. She even told me that “if the new Dr. didn’t write the scripts the same way Dr Bullach did, that she would take him into the hallway and explain to him what to do and how to do it”.  They all told me “not to worry” and “my treatment plan would stay the same”.

I went to my pain Dr. appointment on Jan 2nd, and he was surprised to see me. He had no idea why I was there. He had received ZERO information from Dr. Bullach !  There was no letter sent, no phone call absolutely NOTHING came from that office. Finally the pain Dr. decided to call that office and he spoke with the other Dr. there. He came back to tell me that the Dr. I’d trusted all of these years, had “over medicated me up to many many times the normal amount”!! I was in shock as was my husband.  I was angry and afraid!  I suffer from PTSD which is one of the health issues that has rendered me “disabled” since 1998! The pain Dr. and the other Doc at  my GP’s office spoke and  “THEY” decided that I should go to a brusk,  physician who doesn’t believe in pain medication except to detox people! He detoxes everyone and puts them on something else like Suboxone or Methadone as if all  legitimate pain patients with HUGE list of pain diagnosis’ like mine, are just equal to a common criminal. I researched that Dr. and we spoke to the Dr. who owns the practice where my GP had treated me for all of those years.  My research proved that the “detox” pain Dr. does NOT believe in Opiods, Narcotics even for legitimate pain issues, diseases etc. He has 16 horrible reviews on several “rate your Dr.” websites.

When my husband was on the phone with the Dr. who owns the practice where I’d been going all of these years, I could hear him yelling over the telephone while my husband was talking to him. He was angry and yelling loudly. He said that “Federal Marshals came into their practice, and that my Dr. B. over medicated many other patients, not only me! I’m furious to say the least. But I also heard him say that he could no longer see Dr Bullach’s regular patients or prescribe meds for them any longer.

I am feeling so betrayed and hurt and afraid. He left me on a high dose of medicine and gave me no choices except to go to a scary place and have all control taken from me. Let alone, all control taken from me by a brusk, angry type of Dr. (according to many many of the rate your Dr websites!).  My psychologist and everyone who truly knows me, says that is the very worst thing anyone could do to me. I suffer from PTSD and I’m very afraid of many people. I’ve been abused and assaulted and even sexually molested and I was absolutely NOT going into some unfamiliar place and lose all control!

Well, that was then, on January 2, 2015. Even though the pain Dr. wont see me yet, or have anything to do with me until or unless I’m down to a very low amount of medications for pain. I have done it myself and have tapered off of the meds all by myself. In the past I have had a stroke and a heart attack. I have a pacemaker and I have Long QT and A-fib. I have several, awful,terribly painful illnesses but I still am doing it myself!  My “stand in” GP, who sort of “took over” when the other guy got in trouble and left; and who is not happy that he got “stuck” with me as his patient, said that he “got stuck with a mess when Dr Bullach left him with all of these pain patients that the Dr. just kept giving meds to. How could a doctor do this without caring about “US” as real people? Why would he do this to me? I want to live a good life! I’m a mother, wife & grandma and I have a lot to live for. I have a loving and wonderful husband. I’ve not ever done anything illegal or immoral. I’ve never hurt anyone on purpose and I was always so afraid of dishonoring both God and my own father /parents; therefore I just was always a “good girl”. I stayed and grew into a “good woman/person”. I never even took an Aspirin for pain before that car accident, when I would get headaches in the past!  Would he have done this to his wife or his sister? I just will never understand and I truly feel so sad and betrayed by him.

I have been to the Neuro Cardiologist who said that while I was there for my appointment in January, I was diapheretic *(sweaty from tapering the medications), and my heart was in Atrial fibrillation.  Luckily I have a pacemaker. The Atrial fib is just annoying. I’m being paced with a dual chamber pacemaker. I have a cardiac monitor next to my bed which is watching my HR and BP  24/7/365. It’s connected to my pacemaker via some kind of air waves, making the A-fib a bit more safe.  I’m also on Coumadin, which  helps with the blood clots that Atrial fibrillation can cause. I am keeping track of my tapering and I’m doing this all by myself. My husband is awesome and he’s there for me. He’s helping me by reminding & writing it down with me. I will show everyone that I am strong and that I can do this.  If you are not an addict…if you are only taking what is prescribed by a legitimate Dr. and you are a good, person…then why not be able to take what helps you the most and gives you some semblance of a life? Why treat someone like that as though they are a “common criminal”??.  I only went to one Dr. for all of my medication. I’ve only gone to one pharmacy for the past 26 years! and I asked for the past 3 years, for help in reducing the amount I was taking. I am now down to 1/3 of what I had been taking and I will find someone to help me from now on. I will need something for pain for the rest of my life. I have REAL pain illnesses and real diagnosis’.

The above is just about me and my own story. Maybe some of you have been through it? Maybe you know of someone who has a real chronic pain illness? I’ve done some research online, if I refer directly to something specific that I’ve read, I will tell you where I found it….otherwise it is just general research and my opinion mixed together with my own experiences. If I can help just one person who is suffering, then I won’t be suffering in vain. It appears that Opioids can be a safe and good treatment for some people with non malignant chronic pain. From reading about research I’ve found that there are risks and benefits to the use of Opioids for chronic non malignant pain. The potential risks could be abuse and awful side effects. These can be tolerated and/or managed at least. I think if you have tried all of the things like I have tried, including trigger point injections, epidurals and nerve blocks, TENS, biofeedback, and you just get minimal improvement and only for a little while; then maybe it’s worth a try to be considered for long acting Opioids. I also have heard that if you have nerve pain and you are unable to take antidepressants or anticonvulsants, then Opioids are worth thinking about for these patients. They usually recommend that when someone is given these meds, they should be willing to start out with low doses and start out very slowly.  Hopefully their pain will be relieved if they can tolerate the side effects. People like me, who suffer from multiple chronic pain issues and horribly nerve pain illnesses, should be able to have access to any kind of treatment that has any possibility of improving their symptoms.

About 3 years ago, I started telling my GP that I wanted to reduce the dosage of the pain medications I’ve been taking since 2005. It seemed to me that no medication should be continually taken without having full benefits. I asked many times and each time he would tell me that I didn’t want to “end up on the couch in my living room again in horrible pain; or be in the hospital bed again, like I’d been the first 3 years following the MVA. He was the Dr. and I was the patient so I relented and just listened to him and trusted him. A person who is “addicted” psychologically does not ask to have their pain meds reduced because they are afraid of feeling “married” to it. I didn’t ever like that feeling of having to take something or else I would get sick or sicker! That frightens me and tapering the meds, is the best and safest way for ME to do it. I don’t suggest it for anyone else. You need to check with your own Dr’s and do what they tell you to do. But since the Dr. who knew me very well, turned out to be a bad man who betrayed me and lied to me….well…now I’m back to not trusting anyone again! I know that I do not “crave” the medication in my mind. Psychological dependance is confused quite often  with serious substance abuse and the literature is quite confusing. The Diagnostic and statistical manual, edition IV, (DSM-IV) defines substance dependance as a more serious form of substance abuse. This more serious kind of substance use is characterized by tolerance, withdrawal, overuse, craving, inability to cut down, and excessive preoccupation with respect to obtaining the substance. But substance abuse is characterized in the DSM-IV by use leading to failure to fulfill roles/responsibilities, use in hazardous situations, legal problems resulting from use and use despite negative consequences.  Other studies of chronic long term opioid therapy found that all patients who developed problems with opioid use had a “PRIOR HISTORY OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE”! (hence…NOT ME!)..

There is a lack of any true quantity of research regarding the data for long term opioid use. Many Dr’s prescribe opiates for their chronic non malignant pain patients. Mostly because the alternative treatments for long term management of pain most often fail!! From my readings and research lately, I have found that the opiates usually work for awhile but not always so great for long term use. Sometimes they seem to work in long term situations but I guess there needs to be more evidence and research on that idea. As for me, I feel like it worked for my pain, since I have so many places with nerve pain and so many issues with long term pain. I think it should’ve been reduced a long time ago, because I feel a difference already. I’ve tapered down to 1/3 already in 3 weeks and now when I take the meds, I can actually feel it working after just a few moments; the break through meds. Before I started tapering, it seemed as though I had a constant ongoing “everywhere” pain that felt firey. I just continued my prescribed regimen because that is what I was told to do and each time I asked to stop and /or reduce the amount or try something else, I was pretty much told to “shut up”. I wish Michigan, the state in which I live, could adapt the state of Washington’s patient assessment and care guidelines for the use of opioids for chronic non-malignant pain. You can find this at: http://www.agencymeddirectorswa.gov/Files/OpioidGdline.pdf.  In short, it explains how It includes limiting the dose and amount prescribed, using urine testing for illicit drug use and treatment compliance and asking about alchohol, tobacco and drug use history prior to starting any opioid treatments.

Everything I’ve learned and from my own experience tells me that there is a low risk of addiction in naive chronic pain patients. Someone like me who has never smoked anything nor been a drinker of alcohol, has a very low risk of addiction. I think it is downright hurtful and abusive in certain ways, to keep medication that can help someone’s pain, away from them. What about Dr’s who withhold opiate anelgesics? The problem again is that we just don’t know how long they are effective? In (Kalso et al, 2004)  it was proven that opiate analgesics  effectiveness can be sustained for up to 8 weeks. The problem is that I don’t find any studies that prove their effectiveness after the 8 weeks time period is finished. Also it was shown with lab animals that dependance and pain can possibly get worse with long term use of opioid analgesics. Another issue is tolerance, though this hasn’t been shown in a clinical setting. Increasing dosage to maintain pain control is very common. Many animals in studies do show tolerance (e.g. see Chan et al, 2007).

Sometimes something called “hyperalgesia”  can develop when long term use of opioids happens. This really can mess up and complicate things for the patient and the Dr as well. This was proven  and there is evidence suggesting that this may happen in pain patients on daily opiate therapy (Cohen et al, 2008).  Opiate drug addicts and true pain patients are very separate sets of people. I never touched drugs or alcohol and I’ve always striven to be a person “on the straight and narrow”. I’ve never had any trouble with addiction and I was tested during my time as a patient at the pain management clinic. I was tested by their Psychologist and Psychiatrist.  Their tests proved exactly the same as what I had always known to be true; that I do not have an addictive personality.  In the clinical studies referred to above proved also that opiate addiction due to appropriate medical management of pain is rare! Doctors have a hard time because they feel that it’s difficult to know who is faking pain just to get a prescription. However, the person who is lying to get the meds is already an addict, therefore the Dr is not creating one!

As I mentioned towards the beginning of my post today, more research is needed to decide which pain patients would benefit from treatment with Opiods.  I feel that anyone who is tested and proven to not have an “addictive personality” and who also has proven to be a true chronic, non malignant pain patient; with real HIGH pain health issues/conditions/diseases should be given a chance. I believe also if a patient is asking their Dr. to reduce their opioids because they are willing to try less, then the Dr. should listen to them. Maybe they will go through some tapering withdrawals, but nothing intolerable hopefully. In my case its not been fun but now I’m at the last third of the tapering process. I CAN do this and when I’m finished then I hope to find some respectable, reputable pain management specialist who will welcome me to their practice and help me stay on a maintenance dose. I’ve already notice and noted that I can now feel my “real” pain in the places where there are real problems. When I take a breakthrough medication, I can now truly feel the pain lessen; where before when I was over medicated, I felt a constant burning, nagging 6-7 out of 10 on the pain scale pretty much constantly. I was afraid to NOT take what my Dr. prescribed, thinking that maybe it would worsen to a 9 out of 10, which I didn’t want to tolerate. I can now feel as I’m tapering down on my own pain medications, that when I “over do” my activities a bit, then my pain goes up. When I’m laying “low”, the pain seems to be held at bay a bit.  This has always been true but when I was on higher dosage and over medicated by my Dr., I felt a constant, more steady nagging “all over” pain. I can feel a distinct difference in my pain now.  I know that I didn’t and don’t have hyperalgesia, because my dosage stopped going up 5 years ago but my pain did not increase until my RSD/CRPS II, spread to “systemic” in 2013, and I acquired Lymph edema in my left arm and pain/swelling in my left chest area as well.  My pain was semi controlled and I could do a little bit more on a good day just as I could do a little bit less or nothing much, on a bad day. But I still kept wanting to lower my dosage.

This has turned into a mess for me and for my life. I’m afraid that I’m going to be in horrible pain for the rest of my life? Please…anyone with any ideas (**other than “detox” for a me, a person with no history of abuse of any kind) on where I can go? What I can do? Please leave kind comments or email me if you like…thank you for reading my long post today. I hope I’ve helped someone today!

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Broken Hearts,HOPE & Answered Prayers


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Hello Luvs,

I never thought that this day would actually come. I’ve been praying every day, hoping every day for 9 years +, that my family would be back together again.  I married at age 22, in 1984. We had 2 daughters and in 1992 became legally divorced.  I won’t bother you with all of the trials and tribulations of everything that we’ve gone through, but I do wish to tell you a story of “HOPE”.

When my ex husband left in 1991, I was suddenly alone with 2 daughters, ages 3 and 5 1/2.  My oldest had just started Kindergarten and the youngest just had her 3rd birthday. First I cried until I couldn’t cry another tear. Then I toughened up and bucked up and mustered up the strength and courage to do it on my own.  I had felt pretty much and had actually been pretty much “alone” for the most part of those 8 years. On a Saturday night he took me out to dinner and told me he wanted a divorce. We’d met in Late August 1983 and only 7 months later, in April 1984, we  got married.   So, like I said, he told me that he wanted a divorce on a Saturday night. I freaked out a bit, cried a lot and by Monday, I had gone from a “stay at home mom” to a full time Interpreter for the Deaf at a school system.  I thank God for going to College, especially at that point in my life.

That was the end of September and by June I knew that my “dream job” was not going to work. I needed health insurance because I found out that I truly was on my own; for the most part. My parents lived 35 or more miles away, my mother was very ill and they couldn’t babysit or help in that way.  Next, I got a job at a major University hospital. I was an Outpatient clerk III and an Interpreter for the Deaf. I liked my new job and the independence it gave me. But the first few months I could not get to day care on time to pick up my daughters because the latest pick up time was 6:00 pm. I could not get there without an accident, before at least 6:20 pm because I got off at 5:30pm. I got my father to agree to sit in the car with my daughters until I got there and I was grateful for that. Though I never really understood why he couldn’t have taken them just straight across the street to our apartment and let them get their backpacks off and start homework or get a drink? But hey, I was happy with what I got. I was very thankful. I awoke at 5:10 am every work morning M-Fri, and got ready, showered etc. Then at 6:15 am, I awoke my 3 1/2 and 6 year old daughters. I cleaned them up, did their hair beautifully every day with bows and curls and such. We never “looked” poor!  I fed them breakfast, listened to anything they needed to talk about and we left for Day Care at 7:15 am.  The worst was in the deepest darkest of the Michigan Winters, and taking my babies out into the dark of night and the below 20 degree temps most days, or worse. My youngest used to cry every Sunday night and I hated putting her through it but I had no choice. I loved them and they needed someone responsible and loving to care for them.  I didn’t want to lose their respect some day and let them think that I just sat on my rear end eating chocolates! NO!  I went out and as hard as it was, I got a full time job and for awhile even went back to College to better myself.

For years I had no child support or “on” again and “off” again child support.Finally, when my father in law started paying it, then it came regularly and life became just a tad bit better when I knew that I had  enough to get by for 2 weeks until my paycheck came; and with only usually $20 to spare. I got food stamps and Medicaid insurance for about 6 months, until I could get my own insurance and until I made only $80 per month too much to get food stamps. I was so proud though!! I was soooo proud when I made $80 a month too much to get the $250 worth of monthly food stamps.

So life went on…..much happened and it was hard for us. We all survived and I remarried in 1997 on Valentines day. Then to make this story more about the good than the bad, I have to tell you why I named this story about “HOPE”.  In 2004, my oldest daughter became estranged from us, her family at age 18. She had to find her own way and figure some things out on her own. It broke my heart and I’m pretty sure she felt that her heart was broken too. But days turned into months and then years went by….and by…and by…..

I prayed and I hoped and every Christmas that went by, every Birthday that past and each Mother’s day that came and went, I cried and prayed and cried some more. I would listen to songs and look at photo’s that reminded me of  much harder days but days in which I still had hope, in many ways.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband of now 18 years. He is the best thing that ever happened to me & us in  life, other than having my girls. He is my soul-mate and I love him and he loves me and we are a team.

Nine years ago or more, when all of that happened, I had bought a necklace that was gold and silver and has the word “HOPE” on it. I swore to wear it until my oldest daughter and I were together again.   So much more happened throughout all of those years, but that is not for me to write about today.  Today I am only looking forward and not backwards. Finally, today, I can take off my HOPE necklace if and when I so choose, because my prayers have been answered.

I had lunch with a very old friend in August, her name is Janet.  We had our first baby girls only weeks apart and became great friends.  She moved an hour and half away and then I moved and then I got divorced and then her husband passed and life kept changing for us. But through it all we stayed friends.  She met me for coffee one day in August 2014. I told her that I was “losing hope of ever getting back with my oldest daughter”.  I told her how much I love my daughter and always have and always will. I told her how much I wanted her in my life and how we all missed her so much. She told me to “just call her”. But I was just a bit nervous to call out of the blue like that. I mean I had sent notes, letters, gifts etc over the years but then I sort of “gave up”….not on her…but just on trying to contact her again.  So she told me “why not try and text her and just tell her how you are feeling?”…I thought about it and then I did it the very next day!

I am here to tell you to NEVER give UP HOPE!! I texted my daughter and I told her that “I love her” and I told her that “I was thinking of her and hope she was doing OK?” She told me she was “tired of being pregnant and due in a couple of weeks with her 2nd child.”  I had heard that she got married 5 years ago, but I had not been invited nor ever told about it until my cousin in AZ told me the day afterwards.  I was heartsick and heartbroken again.

So…back to the good stuff!  I texted her and she texted me back. I asked if I could have a photo of my granddaughter who was 20 months and she sent me 5 pictures! I was ecstatic!! She said  that she “couldn’t choose” just one single photo…and I was glad for that! Then I asked if she might let me know when the new baby is born and also send me a photo. She did just that!! We started talking then more and more and texting and one day she invited me to come over after she’d gotten home for a few days from the hospital and having her 2nd C-section (she had 2 C sections, just like me)!

Her mother in law was there and my daughter and I hugged and we laughed and we cried. Her mother in law was so nice and funny and I was put at ease right away. This was the beginning for us again. A chance to start new. We have had over 6 weeks now of spending time together. We talk daily and we see each other almost 4 times a week if not more! Sometimes I sit in the car and let her go in and get her errands done, so she doesn’t have to take 2  babies in with her. Other times she comes over to the park near my house or to my house and we have a tea party! I got down my girls’ old small table and chairs set and cleaned them up.  We had a tea party and she and Olivia and I had such a beautiful time.

I will always include her in everything because I remember my mother always took the girls into her room and left me sitting on the couch by myself after I had driven 45 minutes to their house!  She always wanted to have “girl talk” with them “ALONE” and I was not invited. It hurt my feelings but I always figured that as long as my girls were happy, then I was OK too.  But I really enjoyed all of us having our tea party together, even little newborn baby girl was there with us, sleeping…..but feeling the good feelings in the room.

On Monday of this week, my oldest daughter and I drove an hour to her younger sisters house, my youngest daughter and her husband live about an hour from here.  My oldest daughter and I only live about 4 blocks away from each other now! I love it so much!  So anyways, my youngest daughters, 26th birthday is next week, so we took a picnic lunch and went to their house and to the park and went for a little walk.. This was the first time we’d been together in almost a decade! It is a wonderful feeling!!!  I almost forgot to tell you that a week or two after we started seeing each other,  my husband and my oldest daughter saw one another; they hugged and he got teary eyed.

Life is so much better when you can let go of the past and all of the hurts, big and small.  If you can let it all go and start over and refreshed with a new found way of life and have no need for hurt or revenge or anything but kindness and love and a sense of family…that’s when life will turn around!  When I could finally stop and think and let go of all of the old “junk”, that is when my “HOPE” came true and my life is so much more fulfilled now.  Of course there are times in life when one might have been damaged physically, verbally, emotionally and worse. Unfortunately, sometimes in those cases, it’s not always just a matter of moving on. Sometimes just forgiving in your heart, can lessen the load and it can help you move on just to have forgiveness in your own heart. We cannot force anyone else to think, feel or act in any certain ways. We can’t force anyone to feel how we want them to feel.

I am in chronic pain from RSD/CRPS , RA, DDD, SSS, OA, Dysautonomia/POTS/NCS and many other health issues.  I was in a MVA in 2002 and have suffered through 12 surgeries and alot of pain. I have had a heart attack, a CVA (stroke) and I’ve gone to many Dr’s visits. I am through it and sort of on the other side now; and couldn’t be happier, unless of course the pain was gone.  But it’s a lot easier to bear when you feel loved and you are being more loving yourself.  I am so happy that my family is together again.  I will never again hold onto anything bad in my mind, heart or soul.  I give it up to God and I am going to enjoy life as best that I can.  I will have my days in pain when I cannot do anything, but I will have the love of my daughters and granddaughters.  I love them,  my husband and their husbands Thank you for reading my story and please…NEVER give up HOPE…..it does come, but in “his” time, not in ours.  We don’t know why?? But God does know what he wanted me or all of us to learn first.  Thank you again… also thanks for allowing me  the pleasure of posting a few photos from our day at my youngest daughters house and a few others too.

One more thing before I sign off for today.  I wanted to apologize for being away from my writing for a whole month. I try to write weekly or bi-weekly.  As you can see from my story above and the photo’s, I was just very busy this month; allowing things to happen naturally and waiting for the best time to tell you this wonderful news!   imagesabc

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