Conspiracies Against Wellness Radio Broadcast


Hello Luvs,

I was recently a guest on a radio show, “Conspiracies Against Wellness “. I was interviewed by Jonelle Elgaway and I spoke about the Opioid crisis. Please listen and answer my “call to action” plea at the end.

Please feel free to share this. I encourage you to share it so as many people as possible will learn about all that the chronic pain community is going through.

Here’s the link:

Thank you!

https://youtu.be/N8cBhUStCnA

A Body Of Hope



Hello Luvs,

I was reading my news feed today, feeling very much alone in my pain. I have a wonderful husband who does so much and he’s my soul-mate. I have two lovely daughters and 3 granddaughters, ages 1,3 & almost 5!

We had the 2 older ones sleep over last night. So far we have only had the eldest spend the night. That was easy and awesome. I love them all the same! They are my little blessings. But now I’m in so much pain, that I read the following post with tears in my Eyes. I feel like I’m swimming against the current bcz I try so hard to be upbeat and as “good as I can be”! Today’s been really tough and I’m hard on myself ! This writing is beautiful and the writer is not only a long time friend & Facebook friend; but she’s a talented writer. I have reposted her writing here, to share with you her beautiful words. She has a blog called “A Body Of Hope”. I hope you’ll check it out! Without further hesitation, here’s Mary Mattio’s beautiful words:

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~If you’re having a bad day…this is for you
You have every right to feel overwhelmed, as though no one understands, maybe you feel afraid, or even hopeless. As far as I know, everyone living with long term illness understands these feelings. I know I do.

Illness, pain, long-suffering literally deprives the brain of the chemicals and hormones needed to feel happiness and at peace. It’s not pain or illness alone that causes depression, but the high levels of stress, constantly, over a long period of time that can inhibit the production of important nerve cells. The “optimistic” neurotransmitters like, serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine are no longer in balance to counter the feelings of uselnessness, loneliness, and hopelessness. What might be a passing thought, thanks to the rigors of chronic illness, becomes a spiraling pit of despair. Pain gets into your very soul, and exhausts every resource. 

This month is my 13 year anniversary with chronic pain (RSD/CRPS). When I became very ill 6 yrs ago, after several more illnesses struck suddenly, I felt as though I completely disappeared. Illness and pain swallowed me up.

If anyone is reading this and is being swallowed up, then you know it’s the loneliest feeling in the world to watch everyone go on and live happy lives while you fight for your own life in the shadows. Being drowned by an invisible adversary can seem like a practical joke. Everyone is in disbelief it could be “that bad.” But truly, aren’t we all in disbelief that it’s this bad?

I want to tell you what your brain would tell you if she were allowed to work at her full potential. I want to share what your soul is crying out for that pain has blocked. 

You have a purpose, you always have. Your purpose did not end when you were diagnosed. A calling is not just a job, purpose goes beyond the walls of a building. You are meant to be. 

You are enough. You are just as worthy and amazing as you always have been. Even though you might feel weak, you are gaining strength of character, wisdom, and you are learning things from this battle that no one can ever take from you. Please don’t accept the lie that you’re a failure, you are not. You are in the midst of the fight of your life. We can’t allow ourselves to believe we are losing. If your daughter, son, or grandparent were suffering from the very same condition as you, what would you want to tell them? 

You can do this. Though you may be exhausted and even fragile right now, you aren’t even sure how you’ll go on another day. The pain is pushing you over the edge of what you can bare…but somehow you have risen to meet every single day before this. Remember every treatment, surgery, and frustrating doctor appointment. Never forget how many miles you have walked already. You have overcome so many impossible days. Just get through this day. Tomorrow is not for today. 

You are beautiful. Sometimes we lose touch with our bodies, to separate and protect ourselves. Weight gain or weight loss, hair loss or teeth changes, swelling or skin changes…. we can look in the mirror and see a complete stranger staring back. You may not look or feel as you once did, but you can still get to know this amazing, lovely, and beautiful person. You are worthy of love. (PS. it’s ok to take selfies even if you don’t look like your old pictures!) People love you for all of you. You don’t have to appear perfect, no one is.

You are still the same person. Illness has a tricky way of detaching us from the longing of our past, splitting us apart from the face in the mirror, and isolating us from our loved ones. Who we were can float away, and illness begins to take us over. You are still her! You are still on your journey. Your path, your life, your experience is no less meaningful than anyone else’s. 

One last thing that I think your brain would want to remind you… Things won’t be this way forever. Chronic conditions change over time. Life changes. Our perspectives change. Yes, any day your condition could progress and worsen. Or any day, you could begin to improve or go into remission. The truth is that we hear about progression and complications 10x more (TEN TIMES MORE) than we hear about people regaining health and wellness. There is no doctor or article online that can assure you of what tomorrow will hold. As much as your body and mind yell words like “incurable, degenerative, progressive, comorbidities,” instead let HOPE be your weapon of choice. 

As illness continues to speak its lies to us, we must scream back truth to ourselves so loudly that every part of us can hear!

-Mary Mattio

@abodyofhope
“The road that is built in hope is more pleasant to the traveler than the road built in despair, even though they may both lead to the same destination.”

-Marion Zimmer Bradley

We ARE In The Room



If you visit the Emergency rooms in Michigan, you see and feel many horror stories.  I don’t visit the ER and have not since 2007, when I was diagnosed with CRPS.  I had chronic pain even before that, from several chronic pain issues and illnesses stemming from a car accident and other reasons. But the last time that I went, I was treated like a pariah because I was taking pain medication.  They never asked me about all of the different therapies and non-Opioid medications that I’ve tried.  They don’t know all that I’ve been through.  They also don’t even ask me if I’ve ever been addicted to anything in my life.  The answer would be “NO”. I’ve never smoked anything and I don’t even drink “once in awhile” socially, not ever!  Yet, the Dr.’s and nurses treat people that take small amounts of pain meds as if we are someone to be scorned.  The amount has gone down but it’s not ever going up.  It works for me and for about 25% of the chronic pain population. Only 1% of  legitimate chronic pain patients ever become addicted to pain medications given to them by a pain management physician.  For some people this is what works after numerous other medications and therapies have failed.

I want to share with you just an overview of something I read in a Detroit Newspaper article yesterday (Link to Detroit news article  .  This is what is happening in Michigan in 2017. I’m praying for change and I’m going to advocate to help the legitimate chronic pain patients. I have already written to and gotten a response from the other letter that I wrote to the White House and Governor Chris Christie.  All that I got in return was a fancy form letter from “The White House”.   I can’t give up.  I refuse to give up hope, without hope, we have nothing left.  We must not give up and we need to keep hope alive.

This is just the summary of what actually happened to a family in Michigan.  I read in our Detroit, MI newspaper recently, and it is just a summary:   “Over on a gurney, a woman screams out writhing from pain. A Dr. stands idly by, just watching a monitor. He stood away from her as she was doubled up in pain, screaming about pain in her abdomen.  Her husband walked in and saw this and he new about his wife’s chronic pain condition(s), but had never seen anything like this from her.  The Dr. was expressionless, as if she was not even in the room and as though she was a non-feeling “thing”, a non-being person with feelings and a soul”. Imagine if it was his wife, his mother or child? Would he still feel the same?

So moving on, …”as the husband approached this so called “Dr.”,  the physician was startled and reached out his hand to introduce himself. He said to the husband, “yes she’s “complaining” about pain. He said “we will “try” to address it. Next, he said something horrifying, but not new to our American chronic pain communities.  He said “addicts often come to the emergency room looking for opioids”.  The woman’s husband knew about her medical condition and he knew enough to realize that something must’ve gone terribly wrong after the nerve block procedure she’d had done earlier that day, while he was at work.  They’d been to Cleveland and Mayo clinics and even to the U of MI hospital. This poor woman had gone through numerous medical procedures and attempted over 40 medications. They finally had found a regimen that worked to relieve enough of her pain so that she had some semblance of a life now and then. The only effective regimen was very complicated but it included Opioids”.  The way she was treated just recently, in 2017 is barbaric to say the least.

This is happening not only here in Michigan, but all over the USA.  Just today, 9-17-17, I read an article that was sent to me through my email. The article written by Julie Mack in “MLive”, discusses many statistics about Michigan deaths from “overdose of Opioids, including Heroin”. Opioids for legitimate and suffering chronic pain patients and Heroin, should not even be compared in the same sentence; let alone included together in the same article showing numbers of deaths.  The article even states that “these numbers are based on death certificates and list only deaths that specify “Opioid and/or heroin” as a factor”.  I want people to see the difference here. Legitimate chronic pain patients who’ve been doing well, taking opioids, after trying many other methods to relieve their pain; are not even in the same same category as heroin addicts.  Unfortunately, from the death certificate, they just lump everyone into one category and that’s hurting the pain patients.  We are suffering due to the ignorance of certain Government officials and the paralyzing fear that has been put into our legitimate and caring Pain management physicians.

In Michigan, a bill was recently introduced into the House of Rep.  This HB 4601 would put absolute limits on the dosages that chronic pain patients may receive. The patient’s medical history, illness(es) or lack of any proof of abuse or addiction are suddenly irrelevant. The Government would be mandating that “no doctor may prescribe opioids to a chronic pain patient exceeding 100 morphine milligram equivalents per day.” No matter what! Oh my goodness, everyone’s bodies are different and dosages can affect people differently.  If this bill goes into law,  legitimate pain patients will be bedridden and writhing in pain.  Please help us and learn about this side of HB 4601. Our Michigan Government needs to step in now, to help other government leaders and those in Washington D.C., to understand this huge gap between pain patients and drug addicts. There are two distinct groups included in HB 4601, but we are being “lumped together” as one.

In Oakland County Michigan, the Board of Commissioners has taken a stand against this historically old proposal. They unanimously passed a resolution stating that HB 4601 “infringes on a doctor’s ability to care for patients by substituting  the Legislature’s opinion for the opinion of individual medical professionals.” The board also advocated a balanced method “that specifically targets addiction and abuse while protecting the rights of patients for whom these prescriptions are medically necessary”.  Please help the chronic pain community. We are human beings and we deserve our rights and our lives protected by the state of Michigan and the USA government as well. Please don’t take the rights of our educated physicians away from the decision making process. Educate them more in the area of chronic pain management, but the doctor patient relationship should still stand.  Our Senators, Governors and even our President, need to be educated in this area.  They need to understand the differences between addiction and dependency; along with the difference between drug addicts versus legitimate chronic pain patients.

I implore you to help stop this in Michigan and everywhere. I understand that balance is hard, but we need to think of the real people that HB 4601 affects.  Slashing dosages of opioid pain medications or taking it completely away from people that it has been effectively helping is cruel and abusive. This is America! What is happening to us when the government steps in and takes away a doctors right to treat his patient effectively?  If we can focus more on the people, we would start tailoring laws to address societal harm and avoid legislative dragnets that sound good in headlines but bring danger and harm to too many  citizens. We need to do better for the legitimate chronic pain patients for whom all other methods have failed.

We ARE here, we ARE in the room.  Please join me in helping to make the government and elected official listen to our plea!

Excerpts taken from DetroitNews.com

9-12-17 “Opioids Treat Real Pain; Don’t Limit Drs”

Living With Invisible Illnesses


 Showcasing what many of us live with and deal with on a daily basis:

Preventable Suicide Crime Scene


Someone help this woman! This is a crime! They treat animals better than people so what’s wrong with this picture? This must stop! People are committing suicide because they’re being denied pain medications! Please watch this short video and it will open your eyes to the TRUE OPIOID crises going on in the United Stated of America! Someone please help this woman and the other 100 million chronic pain patients who are in agony now bcz of what’s being misunderstood as addiction, hyperalgesia and worse! This lack of opioid pain medication to true legitimate chronic pain patients, has to stop! We are not disposables! We are in agony and we are human beings with rights like every living soul! Please learn about the difference between dependence and addiction! Addiction is a non-stop ruminating, craving and a need to get high from taking some kind of medication or drug! People with Chronic pain get “addicted” 1% of the time, due to pain medication! We are “dependent” NOT addicted! Our bodies will go through a physical withdrawal when the meds are taken away! But we do not WANT to need the pain medications. We do NOT get high or euphoric from the opioids! We get to live some semblance of a life outside of a hospital or a bed in our homes! Please help because too many people have died already! Stop being hysterical and blaming real and legitimate pain patients because someone you know died from an overdose! I’m so sorry for you, but don’t punish everyone because you’re in misery! Find compassion in your heart and watch this woman’s story for about 3-4 minutes! Thank you!

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One Bloggers’ Reaction To An Attack On Pain Patients!


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This is My Fight …….


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This post stems from some horrible comments that were made on one of my videos on YOU TUBE. MY one YOU TUBE channel is mostly dedicated to information and helping others struggling with chronic pain and /or Invisible Diseases or disabilities. I am not writing this post to “brag” about what I do, because it’s not all for unselfish reasons. It also helps me continue to live on and to want to continue to try and move on beyond the illnesses and the pain that I live with every single day. I was thinking about just deleting the mean comments that someone who says their name is “Jose'”, wrote to me. I thought about not responding and never even saying anything back to this person or these people posing as someone named “Jose'”. I am going to copy and paste the comments here; that were put after my very short video.  The video is one that I made after only day #1 going through withdrawals from being on the Fentanyl lollipops for 12 years and 20 + per day. It was prescribed by my Dr’ of 14 yrs or so. It was Ok’d by the insurance companies and the pharmacy never said a word. I was and am a “lay” person and I did what I was told. I had been on 2 x 100’s strength Fentanyl patches at a time and changed them every 48 hours. At the same time I was on those lollipops. I was put on them at first because every pain medication “ate up my stomach”. Nothing I took by mouth worked because it made me sick to my stomach or burned badly.  So I was put on the lollipops and the patch. One day when I fell and my pain was made so much worse, my GP; the M.D. that had me on those dosages, told me to “go ahead and start wearing 2 of the 100 strength patches”. I did what I was told just as I’ve done my whole life. That is why I’ve gone through so much abuse and trauma because of trying to be the “good girl” and do whatever someone who I thought was a person in “power” or who had “power over me “(so I thought) told me to do.

The reason that I posted this Artistic Sign Language cover song by Rachel Platten, called “Fight Song”; is to show how I am feeling much better now than I was during that “withdrawals day #1 video”. I only did that withdrawal video to show others what it might be like for them to go through withdrawals and what it might feel like. I then posted my new YOU TUBE page called ASLSuzyQ because that is where I put my ASL cover songs. I lost my career due to PTSD, pain, nerve hearing loss and more pain, 8 surgeries, a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury), disabling pain and illnesses. But now I do little tiny bits of ASL to songs because it cheers me up and I hope it cheers up others as well.  I can only do it for a little while and the pain afterwards is debilitating. I cannot even hear the song with the music like I could in the past as I acquired 2 hearing aids due to nerve hearing loss.

I am now going to show you and copy and paste exactly what this/these person(s) wrote to me . Then following those comments, I will post my response to the comments. I’m not sure if this person is really someone named “Jose'” because their “account” in You Tube is not a real account. This person or person may even be some  “bullies” that had popped into my life recently. I’d been abused and in fact I’m used to spotting Narcissist’s and Malignant Narcissistic abusers. Therefore I “popped” them right out of my life as fast as they tried to hurt me and attempted to ruin my long time friendships and my reputation. But my reputation speaks for itself and I don’t have to defend my honor to anyone. I know who I am and what I’ve done. I know what I am doing and hopefully what I will continue to try and do.  I’m a good and kind person. I’m not perfect, but the only one who can judge me is God.  Here is what this person or these persons wrote to me and then afterwards is my response:

SPEAK UP! STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. I’M ON 4-100 PATCHES. You slowly come off them by matching the withdrawl symptoms. Stop and think about it. Some of us have it worse than you. get a grip

-Hello Jose, Im sorry you are such an angry man. It’s too bad that you judge before you know anything at all about me or my life or my background . You know nothing of me or what I’ve been through. Actually I was told by SSDI that I “am the worst case of child abuse/trauma that they’d seen in the past 36 yrs”, that was when i first got on disability in 1998. I also at that time had and still have CKDII now III. I don’t feel sorry for myself, in fact I’m a health advocate /activist. I’m an ambassador for the U.S. Pain association and a Mentor for RSDHOPE.org. I run 2 support groups with over 750 people in chronic pain. I’ve done commercial for Invisible diseases association and I’ve been a “chemo-angel” since 2005. I help others and I don’t hurt people, especially other’s in pain, like me. My new pain Dr. who helped me through the withdrawals in July 2015, this Summer, when I made this video, couldn’t believe how many “real” pain illnesses I have and deal with. He and all of my Dr’s that I’ve had for many years, tell me “how proud they are of me” for all I’ve been through and then to be left like that on 2 x 100 fentanyl patches (weighing 120 lbs at 5’5″ tall and 53 yrs old!!) and 20 + fentanyl lollipops daily. I had to go down slowly on my own, which I did. I then got to 2 per day or 3 and then I took zero after the 12th of July this past year. I’ve never had one again in all of 7 months. I’m proud of myself. I didnt ‘have to go anyplace to be “treated” and a kind pain Dr. took me and is proud of me for all that I have and all that I try to do for others. I only made the video to help others to see what it may be like at first and then I did the other video’s such as “stand by you” in ASL by Rachel Platten and many others, since then to show them and everyone that I did it and can do it and am doing it. I don’t feel sorry for myself very often, but sometimes I allow it for a few moments. I have been a survivor of childhood trauma/abuse since I can remember, then 2 marriages- abusive and one to an ex cop who’s not one any longer but not because of me, because he hurt someone after me. I finally found my soul-mate and actually today, Valentines day we are celebrating our 19th anniversary. Only some of my chronic pain illnesses include: full body/systemic CRPS, Polyneuropathy in Collagen Vascular Disease, Autonomic Neuropathy, Prinzmetal angina/coronary spasms, CKDIII, Rheumatoid arthritis, Osteoarthritis, Coronary artery disease, right long thoracic nerve neuropathy, I have Long QT syndrome in my heart, atrial fibrillation and have a pacemaker. I had heart surgery in 2013 and my CRPS went inside of my body at that time. Im on my 2nd pacemaker. I had a heart attack in May 2005 and a CVA or stroke in 2006, along with 2 “mini” strokes since then. I’m on Coumadin/blood thinners for that. I have Arnold Chiari Malformation I and Multiple herniated/bulging discs in my Lower back and neck at C 4/5 and C5/6 and L4/5, S-1….I have SCID or “severe combined immune deficiency disease”, along with Eczema secondary to CRPS, Asthma, nerve hearing loss with 2 hearing aids and I lost the career that I went to College for …I was an INterpreter for the Deaf and now I sign songs and do artistic signing of covers of songs when I’m able. I’ve had 8 surgeries and all of this happened after a car accident in 2002 ,when a man ran a red light while fighting with his wife. I was knocked unconscious and for 30 minutes or so I’m told. I was also in brain injury rehabilitation for 3 yrs outpatient, because I suffered a Traumatic brain injury. Luckily I found the best Dr’s and got leg braces, a wheelchair, walker and motorized scooter and loftstrand crutches to help me along. I use a cane sometimes when that’s all I need; other times I need the wheelchair depending on my pain that day. I didn’t need to explain all of this,but I felt that if someone who actually has “feelings” and “compassion” ever reads this..they will see how mean and uncaring others can be when they are ignorant to the situation and know nothing of the person they call “feeling sorry for herself”. There will always be people worse off than me and than you. There will always be people better off than we two….I already know that my spirit and my heart are much much better off than you. You can be “sicker” than me if that’s what you wish sir. You can “win”….you can have that place if you want it. I don’t want to be the “sicker” one. I want to be the one who survived to help others and work with others to help them to keep on wanting to survive and never give up… Good day.

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So that is what they/he/she said to me and this was my response. My husband asked me “why did you bother to write back”? He told me that I should have just denied the comments and not approved them.  But I wanted others to see how people can be so mean, even when you are trying to be helpful and no matter who you are or how “good” you try to be, there will always be someone who will judge you and try to hurt you. The only way they succeed is if you allow that hurt and meanness to get into your heart. It will not penetrate my heart because I want to be a good, kind and thoughtful person. I want to help others and I will continue to do so as long as I possibly can. People like this are one or more of many things:  Mentally ill, abusive, Narcissistic and /or Malignant Narcissistic abusers; or all of the above!! I had to show people that no matter what meanness or hurtfulness comes my way or may come your way; don’t ever give in or give up. I won’t either!
I do have some “protected” posts or “private” posts. For my own safety and due to the abusers in my life still today; I have had to do this. If you wish to read those posts, please email me and I will send you the password. Thank you so much…Im sorry this post was not uplifting but I just wanted to show that no matter how hard someone tries to be good and kind and even try to help others, there are always bullies and Malignant Narcissist’s out there ready to “Pounce” and they’ll try to hurt you.  Just don’t let them hurt you or your spirit. Know yourself and what is in your heart and soul.
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Well, I was going to copy and Paste the “apology” that I got from this person. I went back to go and do that so you could see that by responding in an assertive way and making the person responsible for what they did, said….sometimes people will rethink what they’ve said or done. In this case, Jose’ decided to delete his message, which in turn deleted my response. Therefore, it is all as it never happened now on YOU TUBE! But it is here, in my blog and I hope that I’ve learned something and I pray that others have also learned from this post. Thank you and I pray that you have a low pain day and a good day today and every day…

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