How The Mandates Are Affecting The Real People


I asked for permission to print this grieving Mother’s letter to the Democratic Michigan Governor. I wanted to share this because Many Michiganders & others are feeling oppressed now. Mostly because of COVID19 restrictions for some, but not for everyone. While some people who are oppressing the average citizens are allowed to have elaborate funerals; the “regular people” are only allowed 10 people at their beloveds funerals. I guess politicians are immune from COVID19, because I saw that one representative from Georgia had a funeral with approximately 500 people inside of one building. They were not social distancing and not everyone was wearing a mask. Our own Governor in Michigan was physically in the middle of a large protest & though she had a mask on; the two people in the photo with her, were not wearing masks. They also were not social distancing. What do the politicians know, that they’ve not told “We the People”?There was the Mayor of Chicago along with our own Speaker of the House, who got to have hair appointments, when nobody else was allowed to do that! Madam Speaker was not even wearing the mask that she wants to mandate for everyone else in society! But again, they must know something about that smart & sneaky COVID19, that they’re not letting the rest of us in on?? Without further ado, let me share this mother’s heartbreaking story:

I sent this letter about my 20yr old son’s covid funeral to whitmer. I know that I won’t get a response but maybe someone on her staff will see it and then mention it to her.
Dear Governor Whitmer,

My 20 yr old son Dominic was killed in a hit and run while riding his skateboard on September 3.
As you can imagine my husband, younger son and myself are just devastated.
Our family, friends and community are also grieving for the fine young man that we all lost.
Dominic was an eagle scout in his 3rd year at MSU in the agriculture business school. Dominic was known for his sense of humor, respectful nature and always helping others especially his friends that he always pushed to better themselves. Dominic was taking notes in his journal about self improvement that we made copies for all his friends so that hopefully they can also focus on always self improving.

The funeral home viewing is a parents worse nightmare. Because Dominic was so loved there was an extraordinary amount of people there to pay their respects.
The funeral home was very professional following your guidelines so I do not hold them responsible for a difficult day made worse by your strict guidelines.
Were were only able to have 10 people at a time in the building which my immediate family far exceeds that number. We were given the option to place the casket in a doorway so that everyone could pass the casket from the outside to view him but I refused this because we would be forced to put up netting around Dominics body so that the flies and bees would not attack him. It felt so very wrong especially since I would not be able to touch him throughout the day.
The line wrapped around the building with people waiting in the unexpected cold weather for up to 2 hours. Some people ended up leaving because they felt that they didn’t want to take up space from the closer family and friends.
At some point we were told that it was best that we go outside to greet the guests just to speed up the line. It was cold and I certainly wasn’t dressed for it but I was just so grateful to all that came.
The mask mandate that you issued was very difficult for us to recognize our guests some that I haven’t seen in years.
Also 2 of his very good friends could not come to the funeral because they had covid but no symptoms.
The funeral home could not allow us to have food in the lower level rooms typically set up for families to grab a quick bite. I am not sure if it was your mandate but they told us that they could not risk someone getting covid from the shared food.
We were there from 1-9 surviving on water and tic tacs. We had plenty of food and snacks sent to us but it was all forced to sit in the car while we were forced to greet our guests outside in the cold and very hungry with our masks on.
We had the option of having the luncheon at the funeral home but would be forced to serve box lunches which I refused because I come from an Italian family that believes food is for comfort and boxed lunch seemed very cold.
We had a difficult time finding a restaurant to accommodate our big gathering because of your restaurant restrictions. We were forced to have it at our house. It was set up just like a graduation party with tent, tables, chairs and caterer and the hundreds of other items needed for a big group. I believe you just had a graduation party for your daughter so now imagine having only 3 days to put it together during a time right after the death of your child.
I felt compelled to tell you my story because your mandates have serious implications on people’s lives. Your “science” has not been able to justify all your mandates. While I am very upset with you and your “political science”, I still would not wish upon you what we had to endure during our darkest hour. I still would never want you to have to bury your child with all these restrictions set on you while George Floyd had such privilege for his numerous funerals with little restrictions. I would never want you to feel the hunger and cold during a long day of greeting your masked guests that you could not recognize while there is a picture of the governor not social distancing next to 2 unmasked BLM protesters. I would never want you to have to decide if your child should be displayed outside with netting surrounding their beautiful face just to comply with your mandates while being told rioting is ok but not dignified funerals for loved ones. I would never want you to be forced to have the funeral luncheon at your house where no one is fully prepared to accommodate all your family and friends in such a very short amount of time while being told rioters and looters have not had plenty of time to plan their destruction.
Even after having to endure your restrictions for our sons funeral we were forced to be thankful that we didn’t have to have a drive by funeral like so many families before
While you and I are clearly on different political sides, I still would not want to see you suffer any more than you already would be after the death of your child.
Our faith is strong and we believe that Dominic is in heaven for all the good he provided to those around him. Not sure if you have faith but I do believe that when we die we will have to answer to God for our actions and motives and I hope that for your sake you are very comfortable explaining to God your actions and motives that have had real devastating effects on alot of people for the sake of your politics.
Sincerely,
Gabriella Duhn

New Year, Old Fear


The New Year always brings hope of a new beginning and fear of the unknown. Especially in this time of unrest and uncertainty; there is a panic in the pain community. I see it around me and I feel it each new day. People are starting to come apart and pull away instead of moving together as a community to fight the thing that we all fear most.

Nobody wants to be left to die. We don’t like feeling ignored and uncared about. Drs are running away and leaving in droves. There’s no one left to listen, care or treat those with horrible & high chronic pain conditions. There are groups sprouting up from other groups. It feels as though there are many who wish to be the one to “save the pain community “. But in reality we each can be our own hero. We need to depend on ourselves to get out of this mess.

Try your best and do whatever you are able to do. I’m sure you talk with your families on the telephone? So call up your Senators office and tell him your story! You’ll probably get a staffer, but that’s OK! Write emails much? Write an email to your state reps, Senators and your Governor. You don’t need to be eloquent. They need to see faces, hear stories and come to know us as a community of real persons. Ask them if they can remember a time when they had the worst pain ever? Tell them that this is how we feel most days! Let them know that our Drs need to do the Doctoring. The government has enough to deal with; and so allow the Drs to make informed decisions. After all, they went to school for 12-15 years, some of them. They do know what they’re doing.

Turn your fear into action and if you’re just too sick; see if someone will advocate on your behalf? If nothing else, we need to realize that we are worthwhile individuals. Each of us has something to offer in this life and we are not expendable. We deserve to have love, respect and caring. We have a right to be taken care of just like anyone else does.

We must remember that there are bad people in every walk if life and in each profession. There are the good and the bad; the ying and yang with a balance someplace in the middle. There are good and bad politicians, teachers, and more. Drs, go into this career mostly because they want to heal and help others. There are bad patients too, but most of us just try to do whatever we are told and we follow protocol.

The thing that those in power are forgetting, is the balance. They are going with an all or nothing attitude. Why not realize that there are many precautions in place now with the PDMP and more? The people who want to break the law are going to find a way to do it! Those who are good, law abiding citizens living with daily chronic pain are the ones suffering. I think somehow they know we are physically weak. They think we are unable to fight for what we need and therefore they will make decisions above and for us. But we are not mentally weak. We must join together as one voice and support each other. There is no glory or fame here! There are peoples lives at stake. The right of every human being to live in some semblance of comfort.